I help people recover from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and other ways of coping with that uneasy feeling of insecurity in relationships. I know how it feels – I’ve been there too. And I learned the hard way how to heal myself, and then I came to believe that the hard way was the best way, so I’m hoping to help you learn to heal yourself too!
Working with me, you’ll learn to set and keep boundaries, learn to say no, learn to politely inform others how to interact with you in ways that are safe for you. You’ll grow your capacity to radically love and support yourself as you move through your own healing process. You’ll understand patterns of trauma and coping mechanisms that have developed. Here’s a hint: all people-pleasing and perfectionism is rooted in some form of trauma. You’ll identify yours, and how it led to needing to please others perfectly.
I know how it feels to feel like you’re holding up the sky and that you must earn your place in someone’s life. And I know how it feels to learn how to let go and say, “no more” and go about creating the life you want, not the one you felt you had to do.
The life I want now includes living in my most favorite place in the world: the Front Range of the Rocky Mountains in Colorado. I love a good craft beer. I’m an outdoor enthusiast (though my knees would disagree), I love my dog, Belle and have found a trusting and safe love in a partner who supports me as I continue to heal. I continue to learn to step away from expectations and forge my own path – the one that supports my own needs and allows me to care for others in a healthy way.
In my downtime, I can usually be found with my nose in a book, crafting little zombie felties, walking Belle, or exploring what Fort Collins has to offer in Old Town.
Education: Bachelor of Arts in Philosophy (2005); Master of Social Work (2017)
Licenses: Michigan (LMSW), Tennessee (LCSW), Colorado (LCSW)
Trainings: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT); Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT); Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM); Mindfulness Meditation, Self-Compassion, Internal Family Systems Introductory course.